Change the way you’re treated – The way you treat yourself is the way the world will treat you! Reviewed by Momizat on . This title holds such an enormous truth. I often find it quite exciting when a few words speak so loudly! How can you change the way you're treated? In my book, This title holds such an enormous truth. I often find it quite exciting when a few words speak so loudly! How can you change the way you're treated? In my book, Rating: 0
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Change the way you’re treated – The way you treat yourself is the way the world will treat you!

Change the way you’re treated – The way you treat yourself is the way the world will treat you!

This title holds such an enormous truth. I often find it quite exciting when a few words speak so loudly!

How can you change the way you’re treated?

In my book, “How Life Really Works,” and in many of my previous articles I’ve mentioned that we all concentrate on our relationships with our family, friends and the greater public yet we fail to recognize the relationship we have with ourselves.

As you go about your day-to-day activities there’s a You that’s doing, thinking and being and then there’s a YOU that’s watching all this doing, thinking and being. It’s kind of cool. Think a thought and watch it.

What thought am I thinking right now?

Hold on – I’ll demonstrate. I’m going to stop typing and see what comes into my mind. So, what’s the next thought that enters my mind….nothing yet…Ahhhh – I just had this thought, ‘What if I never had to wear socks again?’ At the moment most of my thoughts are focused on my plans to sell up my possessions, buy a big sailboat and just sail around for a while. When that happens, I’ll be in warmer climates and thus I don’t have to wear socks! (Read my latest article where I reveal my sell up and sail plans here: Instead of blaming people for your life results ask, ‘why have I created this situation’?)

That aside, can you see how I just consciously took a break and watched my next thought? You can do that anytime and the more you do it the more you’ll notice your thoughts or particular thought patterns. And the more you notice your thoughts the more meaningful the relationship you’ll have between You (that thinker, doer, be-er) and You (the watcher).

Are you thinking, ‘Kim – I know my thoughts! I don’t have to watch them, I’m thinking them?!’

Well…you’d be surprised how many thoughts go through your head all day long that you no longer pay attention to. You know when you go to find your keys, you look all over and they’re right in front of you? The same thing happens with your thoughts. They’re right in front of you but you don’t see them.

I suppose it’s because once you habitually think something it becomes part of the wallpaper. It’s like walking or breathing. You’ve done it so often that it’s just a part of you.

What kind of thoughts am I talking about?

Well…you might make a mistake and automatically think, ‘I’m useless.’ Or you could get a bill in the mail and without realising it, think ‘I’ll never make enough money to get out of debt.’ Or – you could incessently hear a parent saying, ‘you’ll never amount to anything,’ ‘you’re fat,’ ‘you’re lazy,’ ‘you’re not good enough,’ and on and on.

You’d think that you’d consciously see these thoughts going through your head but like I said…you’ve thought them so many times and for so long that they’re just there. They trigger just like your breathing mechanisms trigger. You don’t think ‘I need to take a breath’ before each breath – do you?

The incredibly awesome thing about your thoughts is that you can choose to look at or see them if you want to!

You can see the good, the bad and the ugly ones. Furthermore, once you see unhealthy or destructive thoughts you can decide to get rid of them! If you get rid of them, you’re whole life changes. For example, if you get rid of the thought or belief, ‘I’m not good enough,’ then you will no longer broadcast that energy to the world and the world will no longer treat you as ‘not good enough.’

Remember – your beliefs/thoughts are only true because you once decided to make them true. They’re not necessarily true at all! (Read my book if this concept is difficult for you to grasp – the book will explain this easily).

And this leads me into the title – the way you treat yourself is the way the world will treat you.

What’s this have to do with how to change the way you’re treated?

Hold up. Let me first summarise the first bit.

  • You have a relationship with yourself but you may not have paid much attention to it. You might actually be quite a stranger to your own thoughts.
  • Habitual thoughts become a part of the wallpaper – they’re going through your mind/body but you don’t see them. (Or perhaps I should say that you were never taught to look at them).
  • You can choose to watch your thoughts if you want to – and while watching you’ll see the thoughts that were previously lost in the wallpaper.
  • If you find a thought like, ‘I’m not good enough,’ you can remove it.
  • If you remove a destructive or outdated thought your world/reality/life changes automatically. You no longer broadcast to yourself and everyone else that you’re no longer worthy…and by doing so, your reality changes.

Okay – back to title. We have two things here. The way the world treats you and the way you treat you.

The way the world treats you is…(fill in the blanks)

Take a few minutes and answer this question for me: How do people (in general) treat you? How do men treat you? How do women treat you? How do rich people treat you? How do poor people treat you? How do different ethic people treat you? How do customer service representatives treat you? How do your parents treat you? How does your hubby/wifey treat you? How do your children treat you? How do your co-workers treat you? How does any significant person in your life treat you?

Think of the people you love and the people you hate. Think of the people that you admire and those that disgust you. How do they treat you?

Surprize, surprise…

Since your beliefs/thoughts attract people that fit into those beliefs/thoughts you’ll only ever attract people (and situations and events) that confirm those beliefs/thoughts. If you think men treat you poorly – they’ll treat you poorly. If you think your parents treat you like a little kid, they’ll treat you like a little kid. If you believe that you’re co-workers all hate you, they’ll most likely all hate you. What you belief is what you create.

I’m not representing the positive side in all this, so here are some positive examples. If you think you’re lucky, the world will show that you’re lucky through ‘chance’ rewards. If you believe most people are loving, you’ll be met with loving people. If you believe that men/women are equals then the world will show you that men/women are equals. But that’s not really not as significant as this next bit of information…

So here’s the bombshell

With the exercise above about how people treat you. You can take each and every one – the good and the bad and acknowledge that the people that treat you well show you how you treat yourself well. The people that treat you poorly demonstrate how you’re treating yourself poorly.

The ‘bad’ treatment is an indication of a ‘bad’ thought or belief pattern (about yourself) and the same goes for ‘good’ treatment. I’ve put bad and good in quotes because it’s totally subjective to you as to what’s good and bad.

A hard pill to swallow…but get swallowing!

It’s a hard pill to swallow sometimes, but you only attract people, events, situations that you internally radiate. Reality creation starts inside you first and then materialises into physical life. Everyone around you is confirming back to you what you believe the world is all about and what you believe about yourself in relation to the world. If you’ve ever read stuff about people are only a mirror or reflection of yourself, this is what’s meant by it.

The only way you can be treated ‘bad’ is because you are somehow treating yourself ‘bad’. You are somehow allowing ‘bad’ thoughts/beliefs to exist in your mind/body.

For example, if you don’t value yourself, you’re boyfriend/partner/boss isn’t going to value you.

To change the way you’re treated you therefore need to change the way you treat yourself

If you want people to love you more, learn to love yourself more. If you want people to respect you more, learn how to respect yourself more. If you want people to see your beauty, you need to see and appreciate your beauty.

Makes sense? Hehehehe. Yeah, this might be a bit heavy. Let it sit for a bit. And the next time someone treats you very well, congratulate yourself for attracting it. And if/when someone treats you poorly – look inside and discover what belief that person is confirming for you. Perhaps you can then get rid of it!

Kim Brown helps people to find their life’s purpose and exponentially increase their fulfillment.  To get started read Kim’s book, ‘How Life Really Works: The Answer to Finding your Purpose & Personal Fulfillment’

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  • Thomas - Seattle WA

    “It’s a hard pill to swallow sometimes, but you only attract people, events, situations that you internally radiate. Reality creation starts inside you first and then materialises into physical life. Everyone around you is confirming back to you what you believe the world is all about and what you believe about yourself in relation to the world. If you’ve ever read stuff about people are only a mirror or reflection of yourself, this is what’s meant by it.”

    – Hi Kim – I don’t agree with this completely. I’m assuming you’d agree that really what’s most important is your interpretation of the events (people, things, circumstances, events, etc.) in your life, not that you’re ‘attracting this or that’. That’s one area (along with actually taking action rather than sitting around waiting and hoping), I believe, “The Secret/”Law of Attraction” movement, falls short on. They both drill into people that they’re – literally – ‘attracting’ everything that happens in their life. And many, many people take this… LITERALLY. (As in, “I attracted the neighbor next door”, “the clouds in the sky today”, even “the number of cars on the road during my commute!”) There’s figurative reality, and then literal. And most people take things literally. So, I personally don’t think people attract every single thing into their life. I do believe, however, that your information on our ‘beliefs’ is the crux of EVERYTHING that results in our life. I believe it’s Morty Lefkoe who has a belief program who’s point is: events are inherently meaningless; no matter how traumatic or glorious. The events – literally – have no inherent meaning. They only have meaning when we give them meaning. And we give them meaning through our beliefs. So, while I don’t believe we attract every single thing into our life, I do believe that the meaning we give to every single thing we experience, through our beliefs, sets our sails and determines our life. Thanks so much for your work. I really couldn’t have found your work at a better time in my life. Thomas, Seattle

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  • Kim Brown

    Holy smokes Thomas…I love your thoughts on this. I would love to go out to lunch with you and have a serious ‘debate’ on this concept. One one hand, I agree that it’s our interpretation of events that are filtered through our belief system that give them meaning.

    On the other hand, I also do agree with the school of thought that we do attract things to us – like magnets. I do believe we attract our neighbours, lovers and even a particular clerk at Starbucks. I do believe we attract particular events to us too.

    The way it works is our belief system only notices the people that fit in with what we’re radiating/attracting. And the energy of the universe works is such an amazing way that we pull in people/events.

    Let me see if I can give meaning to this with an example…here goes:

    Right, I wrote an article about how my life was stalled regarding the sale of my house. Originally, we were going to move to a house on the south coast (rather than buy the boat). We sold the house in a few days but the sale just wouldn’t complete. There was a contingency for the sale to go through based on planning permission. The buyers (a company that were going to turn our home into a foster home) said that the planning would go through. The neighbourhood, town councillors and anyone near our house said it wouldn’t. For months and months it dragged on and on.

    From my internal space perspective, I have to admit that I wasn’t keen on moving. I was happy to sell our house, but moving to the new house wasn’t a ‘dream come true.’ I was conflicted and therefore the sale process was conflicted. One day it seemed as if everything was going to happen and the next, it felt as if the process was stalled once again.

    I then did a bit of soul searching knowing that I was conflicted. Eventually, the idea of sailing around the world reared it’s head (for the 100th time) and I said, ‘it’s now or never.’ I spoke to hubby and within a few days of living with the idea, we decided to put the house back up for sale and tell the current buyers it just wasn’t working. The current buyers supported our decision…and it sold in a few days. The whole start to finish sale was 28 days – a miracle for this country. The buyers we attracted needed the exact house we had and they didn’t have a chain – they could pay cash.

    For us to get the boat we wanted for the deal we wanted, we needed to buy in in less than a month.

    My point (that I’m taking forever to get to) is that once my mind/body was clear about what I wanted I attracted the people/events that moved heaven and earth. It’s not about my perception of the events…

    And as for the people that sit around and hope – I totally know what you’re taking about. I’m not saying that I decided I wanted X (or believed I wanted X and it happened). I made a decision and then took serious action. Both hubby and I were manic.

    As for the clouds and the cars on the road…I suppose I think of those as stage props. They’re there in the background to support the game but unless they impact you, through perception or attraction, they’re just props.

    Does any of that make sense. Perhaps I can come up with more ‘attraction’ examples for you. I’ll think about this over the next few days.

    Big smiles 🙂

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