Change the way you’re treated – The way you treat yourself is the way the world will treat you!
This title holds such an enormous truth. I often find it quite exciting when a few words speak so loudly!
How can you change the way you’re treated?
In my book, “How Life Really Works,” and in many of my previous articles I’ve mentioned that we all concentrate on our relationships with our family, friends and the greater public yet we fail to recognize the relationship we have with ourselves.
As you go about your day-to-day activities there’s a You that’s doing, thinking and being and then there’s a YOU that’s watching all this doing, thinking and being. It’s kind of cool. Think a thought and watch it.
What thought am I thinking right now?
Hold on – I’ll demonstrate. I’m going to stop typing and see what comes into my mind. So, what’s the next thought that enters my mind….nothing yet…Ahhhh – I just had this thought, ‘What if I never had to wear socks again?’ At the moment most of my thoughts are focused on my plans to sell up my possessions, buy a big sailboat and just sail around for a while. When that happens, I’ll be in warmer climates and thus I don’t have to wear socks! (Read my latest article where I reveal my sell up and sail plans here: Instead of blaming people for your life results ask, ‘why have I created this situation’?)
That aside, can you see how I just consciously took a break and watched my next thought? You can do that anytime and the more you do it the more you’ll notice your thoughts or particular thought patterns. And the more you notice your thoughts the more meaningful the relationship you’ll have between You (that thinker, doer, be-er) and You (the watcher).
Are you thinking, ‘Kim – I know my thoughts! I don’t have to watch them, I’m thinking them?!’
Well…you’d be surprised how many thoughts go through your head all day long that you no longer pay attention to. You know when you go to find your keys, you look all over and they’re right in front of you? The same thing happens with your thoughts. They’re right in front of you but you don’t see them.
I suppose it’s because once you habitually think something it becomes part of the wallpaper. It’s like walking or breathing. You’ve done it so often that it’s just a part of you.
What kind of thoughts am I talking about?
Well…you might make a mistake and automatically think, ‘I’m useless.’ Or you could get a bill in the mail and without realising it, think ‘I’ll never make enough money to get out of debt.’ Or – you could incessently hear a parent saying, ‘you’ll never amount to anything,’ ‘you’re fat,’ ‘you’re lazy,’ ‘you’re not good enough,’ and on and on.
You’d think that you’d consciously see these thoughts going through your head but like I said…you’ve thought them so many times and for so long that they’re just there. They trigger just like your breathing mechanisms trigger. You don’t think ‘I need to take a breath’ before each breath – do you?
The incredibly awesome thing about your thoughts is that you can choose to look at or see them if you want to!
You can see the good, the bad and the ugly ones. Furthermore, once you see unhealthy or destructive thoughts you can decide to get rid of them! If you get rid of them, you’re whole life changes. For example, if you get rid of the thought or belief, ‘I’m not good enough,’ then you will no longer broadcast that energy to the world and the world will no longer treat you as ‘not good enough.’
Remember – your beliefs/thoughts are only true because you once decided to make them true. They’re not necessarily true at all! (Read my book if this concept is difficult for you to grasp – the book will explain this easily).
And this leads me into the title – the way you treat yourself is the way the world will treat you.
What’s this have to do with how to change the way you’re treated?
Hold up. Let me first summarise the first bit.
- You have a relationship with yourself but you may not have paid much attention to it. You might actually be quite a stranger to your own thoughts.
- Habitual thoughts become a part of the wallpaper – they’re going through your mind/body but you don’t see them. (Or perhaps I should say that you were never taught to look at them).
- You can choose to watch your thoughts if you want to – and while watching you’ll see the thoughts that were previously lost in the wallpaper.
- If you find a thought like, ‘I’m not good enough,’ you can remove it.
- If you remove a destructive or outdated thought your world/reality/life changes automatically. You no longer broadcast to yourself and everyone else that you’re no longer worthy…and by doing so, your reality changes.
Okay – back to title. We have two things here. The way the world treats you and the way you treat you.
The way the world treats you is…(fill in the blanks)
Take a few minutes and answer this question for me: How do people (in general) treat you? How do men treat you? How do women treat you? How do rich people treat you? How do poor people treat you? How do different ethic people treat you? How do customer service representatives treat you? How do your parents treat you? How does your hubby/wifey treat you? How do your children treat you? How do your co-workers treat you? How does any significant person in your life treat you?
Think of the people you love and the people you hate. Think of the people that you admire and those that disgust you. How do they treat you?
Since your beliefs/thoughts attract people that fit into those beliefs/thoughts you’ll only ever attract people (and situations and events) that confirm those beliefs/thoughts. If you think men treat you poorly – they’ll treat you poorly. If you think your parents treat you like a little kid, they’ll treat you like a little kid. If you believe that you’re co-workers all hate you, they’ll most likely all hate you. What you belief is what you create.
I’m not representing the positive side in all this, so here are some positive examples. If you think you’re lucky, the world will show that you’re lucky through ‘chance’ rewards. If you believe most people are loving, you’ll be met with loving people. If you believe that men/women are equals then the world will show you that men/women are equals. But that’s not really not as significant as this next bit of information…
So here’s the bombshell
With the exercise above about how people treat you. You can take each and every one – the good and the bad and acknowledge that the people that treat you well show you how you treat yourself well. The people that treat you poorly demonstrate how you’re treating yourself poorly.
The ‘bad’ treatment is an indication of a ‘bad’ thought or belief pattern (about yourself) and the same goes for ‘good’ treatment. I’ve put bad and good in quotes because it’s totally subjective to you as to what’s good and bad.
A hard pill to swallow…but get swallowing!
It’s a hard pill to swallow sometimes, but you only attract people, events, situations that you internally radiate. Reality creation starts inside you first and then materialises into physical life. Everyone around you is confirming back to you what you believe the world is all about and what you believe about yourself in relation to the world. If you’ve ever read stuff about people are only a mirror or reflection of yourself, this is what’s meant by it.
The only way you can be treated ‘bad’ is because you are somehow treating yourself ‘bad’. You are somehow allowing ‘bad’ thoughts/beliefs to exist in your mind/body.
For example, if you don’t value yourself, you’re boyfriend/partner/boss isn’t going to value you.
To change the way you’re treated you therefore need to change the way you treat yourself
If you want people to love you more, learn to love yourself more. If you want people to respect you more, learn how to respect yourself more. If you want people to see your beauty, you need to see and appreciate your beauty.
Makes sense? Hehehehe. Yeah, this might be a bit heavy. Let it sit for a bit. And the next time someone treats you very well, congratulate yourself for attracting it. And if/when someone treats you poorly – look inside and discover what belief that person is confirming for you. Perhaps you can then get rid of it!
Kim Brown helps people to find their life’s purpose and exponentially increase their fulfillment. To get started read Kim’s book, ‘How Life Really Works: The Answer to Finding your Purpose & Personal Fulfillment’