How I use contemplation to figure out what beliefs I have so I can perhaps change them!
Often I write about the benefits of contemplation, but what do I mean by contemplation? My definition is that it’s all about questioning one’s self about what you think and how you feel. Getting under the surface of things – looking deep rather than surveying the top layer kind of stuff.
I’m often questioning what I believe so that I can determine if I need to perhaps change it or swap it in for a more improved belief. And the method that works best for me is to write out my thoughts… Here’s an example of one such session.
My contemplations in the form of a brain dump:
- During the week day the line at the coffee shop is always short for me. On the weekend, I expect it to be longer and it always is. What if I expected it to be short all the time? Would it be short all the time?
- During my commuting days, I always got a seat on the Tube (London subway) – someone would get off and the longest I’d ever have to stand was one stop. Some people complain that there’s never ever a seat. How come I always got one? Because I expected it?
- Airport travel issues – without fail, every time I fly there is some sort of drama. A missed or cancelled flight. Getting the wrong stamp and having to run miles to get the right stamp. Delayed or lost luggage. Storms. Diversions. On the positive side, I’ve been upgraded from economy to business class while travelling with my daughter and hubby – we all got beds. My daughter was a baby – we didn’t even buy a seat for her, yet she got a whole bed to herself! For a full year I was upgraded every time I flew yet I don’t own a frequent flyer card. Are my travels always seeped with drama and adventure because I believe that’s the way travel happens?
- I have always dyed my hair and have joked about how ‘ruined’ it is. And how it turns green. Does it turn green because I expect it to? Does it look ruined because I believe I’ve ruined it? What if I believed my hair was beautiful, blonde and healthy?
- I always thought pictures of me were terrible. Someone told me to just believe I’m photogenic and I will be. I gave it a go and now I look at all my photos and think, ‘yeah – I look good in photos!’ Is it because I decided to believe I looked good? How could such a little tip make me see myself in a totally different way? Can beliefs be so easily accepted? In this case, yes.
- If I decided to win the lottery with the same conviction I used about being photogenic, would I win the lottery? (As far as my conviction goes – there wasn’t much. I just thought, ‘yeah – I’ll just believe I am photogenic. Why not – eh?’)
- Gluten free baking doesn’t return anything that really tastes that good. Is that because I believe GF baked goods suck? If I started to believe that GF baked good were delicious would I start liking them?
- I believe that Xmas has become too commercial. I got upset when I heard the local radio station promoting a car dealership contest for kids who could make the dealerships xmas card. The whole thing was all about promoting cars – it had nothing to do with the Xmas spirit. Right now, I’m programmed to see all the commercial aspects of Xmas…but there are surely loads of examples of Xmas spirt out there. People helping others…kids getting excited about Santa’s visit…families planning on giving, receiving, good food and lots of love. Everything is out there – every possibility to see things…we choose what we see. Note to self, I must change my focus on Xmas to see the spirit rather than anything else.
- Stress. Hmmmmmm. This one is tough. Am I stressed now? Yes. Am I stressed all the time. Pretty much, yes. How do I feel about stress? Well…I don’t like it. It makes my body feel tight and crunchy. Is it possible to live without tight and crunchy stress? Yes but I don’t know how. I believe I don’t know how to live life where I feel free, balances, easy-going, calm. I don’t. How can I get myself to believe that I’m an easy-going go with the flow kind of gal? Argh. I don’t know. Why can I believe I’m photogenic yet I can’t instantly believe I’m peaceful? Need an answer on that one Universe!
These were just a variety of random thoughts that entered my head as a I sat sipping my daily latte. There’s a difference between living life and taking time out to look at your life. Have you ever sat down, sipped a coffee or tea and wrote down what you believe or don’t believe? Have you ever had a contemplation brain dump?
The more I examine the results of my life and then work backwards to consider what I believe, the more conscious I become about how my thoughts/beliefs create my reality.
Every possibility is out there to happen, but only what we believe and expect to happen happens.
Wouldn’t it be cool to be sitting at a coffee shop having the same day as always, but then have the ability to shift a belief or two. And once the belief shifted, your daily routine changed for the better. What would be ‘better’?
Wouldn’t it be amazing to sit down at the coffee shop as a stressed out, green haired, travel drama queen that hates gluten free food and then get up as a peaceful, beautiful blonde, smooth traveller that enjoys foods that are healthy?
Hmmmmm…we need a bit of excitement thrown in there too. How about some sort of incredible adventure that is also taking place. Errrr, actually, that is happening. Selling up all my stuff and buying a boat to sail around the world must be considered an adventure – eh? Hehehehe.
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