Examining the meaning of taking responsibility for your life – what does that mean?
While contemplating life this morning, it dawned on me that concept of ‘taking responsibility for your life’ is most often used in a negative context. Looking back on my childhood, I remember my mom yelling, ‘Who is responsible for this mess?’ or spouting out clichés like, ‘you made your bed, now you need to lay in it.’
The whole area around responsibility has been about accepting that we did something wrong
And then we get older and during our adult life, if we’ve learned that blaming others if futile, we’ll pipe up at work or home and say, ‘I take responsibility for the current errors. I messed up. I’ll now try and fix things.’
Take things to next level, the reality creation level, and we’ll have a situation were we finish a terrible day and think, ‘Why did XYZ happen to me today? What a terrible day…’ And after the smoke settles, we’ll come around, remember that we create or allow our reality and we’ll then say, ‘I’m responsible for this terrible day. Why did I create or allow this to happen?’
‘Taking responsibility for your life’ on any level seems to mean that we look at the mess we made, realize we created it and then figure out perhaps why we created it or what benefit we’re receiving from creating it so that we can change it.
And this is where my BUT is going to make a stand!
But what about taking responsibility for the great stuff we create? What about taking responsibility for the beautifully tidy room, the successful project, the great chat with a friend, the amazing opportunity to enjoy a sunset…
We’ve grown up in a system that has programmed us to take the 99.9% good stuff for granted and heavily focus on the 0.1% negative stuff. We do this with our news, in our personal lives (ex. gossiping) and in our ability to take responsibility.
When have you ever taking responsibility for the amazing creations you’ve created?
If you’re like me, you’ve never even considered doing so. You ‘take responsibility’ and perpetuate the things that are negative rather than ‘take responsibility’ for the positive.
Yes, this is probably just another way of confirming that gratitude in life encourages more positive experiences but I think it’s important to take a look at the words we use and how we use them.
Responsibility for creating our life means our ‘bad’ and ‘good’ creations. Taking responsibility should mean that we congratulate ourselves for getting it right and question ourselves about changing what we got wrong.
Perhaps a more balanced approach might enable us to live more fulfilling lives?
I’ve always thought that love is more powerful than hate and positive emotions are stronger than negative. Perhaps if we spend more time loving ourselves and taking responsibility for our amazing creations, we’d get an increase in our overall fulfillment level.
What do you think?
Yesterday I found myself ‘taking responsibility’ for something negative in my past
A particular incident caused me to pop back into my past and feel the negativity I felt during that part of my life. This then had a knock-on effect where I questioned why I created such a life. I questioned what beliefs caused me to create such an unhappy situation.
For a few minutes I felt swamped by my old life, my old terrible feelings
Ironically, I laid in my bed on my yacht (I’m in Malta now getting ready to sail to Sicily) trying to take responsibility for something that happened years ago.
Wouldn’t my time be better spent taking responsibility for creating my present situation of sailing around the world with my family?
Perhaps I’m so conditioned to want to ‘take responsibility,’ and have this need to ‘fix’ my life that I’ve invited an incident to give me something to work on?
Well…after those few minutes of feeling my old terrible feelings, I quickly remembered how miserable I was. I had forgotten where I was and how far I’ve come. The feelings were so uncomfortable and since I haven’t felt them for so long, they were a great reminder for how unhappy I was.
And that’s when it dawned on me that I had an option on how I decided to ‘take responsibility’
I had an option to consciously take responsibility for how I felt. I then chose to take responsibility for having the opportunity to live on a yacht, travel around the world with my family, eat great foods, meet amazing people and learn more about the 99.9% of the great things and people in this world.
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