How To Train Yourself To Get The Best Possible Outcome
Think about your day to day life for a moment. Reflect on your morning routine – whether you wake, lay in bed and then slowly get dressed or wake late, rush to get ready and run out the door.
Then think about your work. What routine do you have once you arrive? A bit of chit-chat, a review of your emails and then a process of ticking things off your to-do list? Or is it some sort of organised chaos where everything is a bit of drama?
How about your relationship with your partner? What kind of routine do you have there? After work, do you greet each other with a kiss, discuss the days events or are you two passing ships making sure the house and all the activities run to plan?
If you look at any are of your life, whether it’s the monotonous waking routine, your normal work activities or the usual way you greet your partner, you’ll notice that as a whole they happen in a similar way every day. Perhaps some of them happen quite automatically. You simply get up and do what you usually do.
How to get the best possible outcome?
What would happen, however, if you injected a new step to your routines? What would happen if you first thought about what you want to achieve and then decided upon the action that would best suit your desires? What if you stopped before every action – whether it was small or big (brushing teeth or giving a presentation) and took 5 seconds to consider the best possible outcome you could achieve?
Pretend that you could carry on living on automatic pilot and just do what you normally do – without really thinking about it. Or, you could ask yourself before each task, ‘what could be the best result I could achieve by doing this task?’
Rather than living life re-actively and simply taking action in response to something, we could live life proactively by telling our mind/body what we really want.
If we told our mind/body what we really want, what’s the chance of us getting it? Well – I’m sure you’ll agree that the chances are better if we stop and think what we want and then take action.
It’s the difference between shooting an arrow in any direction versus shooting an arrow at a bulls-eye
So – are you living a life where you’re randomly shooting arrows all over the place or do you stop to think what you want and then shoot the arrow towards a target?
Let me give you some examples. Every Monday I sit at my computer to create a weeks worth of tweets for one of my businesses. It’s a routine. I create around 12 tweets/day and line them up to go out at certain time throughout the day/week. A program helps me to set it up on Monday and then it fires them off throughout the week.
Why do I do it? Well…it’s a way to grow my following. It’s a way to get people to follow me. It’s just something you need to do to grow your business – social media is key – yes?
Well…what if I took 5 seconds before I created my tweets and thought about what I really want to achieve. What is my true desire. Hmmmmmm. Well, I want to use Twitter in a way to get people to know about my business so they either buy one of my products/services or partner with me to form a mutually beneficial way to generate income. Now, if I think/visualise the outcome I want (making an income) before doing the action (tweeting), perhaps my actions will be influenced by my desires? Perhaps I’ll be more inclined to do my task in a way that allows me to get the best possible outcome.
If i just tweet for the sake of building my followers, I’m just going to get more followers. If I tweet for the sake of generating X amount of money and meeting new partners I’m going to be more likely to make money and meet influential people.
You get what you focus on and if you’re not focusing on anything particular you’re going to get what you’ve always got. Nothing will change.
In sports, it’s a well known fact that most games are more mental than physical. It’s all about visualizing the end outcome. For example, in golf, you picture the ball landing on the fairway where you want it to land. You then picture the ball going in the cup. Yes, you still need to know how to hold the club and how to hit the ball, but once you understand the mechanics it becomes a mental game.
So if sports people use thought before action and visualization, what if we did the same for every part of our life. What if we took the time to consider the best possible result of our wake up routine? What if we thought about what we really want to achieve from our work and make that an objective to remind ourselves? What if we thought about the type of relationship we wanted with our spouse and then worked backwards?
What would happen if we stopped ourselves before we do anything and everything, questioned why we’re actually doing it, discovered an answer and then took action?
Perhaps we’d find that we’re doing a task because we feel like have to do it, but when analyzing the situation we realize that it won’t bring us closer to fulfillment in the least. In fact, it will bring us further away…
Kim Brown helps people to find their life’s purpose and exponentially increase their fulfillment. To get started read Kim’s book, ‘How Life Really Works: The Answer to Finding your Purpose & Personal Fulfillment’