How to finally change your unsatisfying job!
Change your unsatisfying job!
Does your job, career or work situation no longer work for you? Do you dread going to work because you’re surrounded by people that annoy or frustrate you? Do you dislike the actual type of work that you’re tasked with? Perhaps what was once fun, exciting and fresh is now boring, dull and not challenging?
Most people do one of two things when face with an unsatisfying job. They either complain about it over and over yet do nothing about it OR they quit their job only to find their complaints are similar in the next job.
Before your job conditions change (externally) you need to make an internal change to the films your mind and body are running. In my book, ‘How Life Really Works: The Answer to Finding your Purpose & Personal Fulfillment,’ I explain that your films encompasses your feelings (emotional and physical), thoughts, memories, visualizations, expectations and beliefs.
The easiest way to think of it is imagine that your current films are being projected from inside you to the outside world. Your films are creating your situation…your life. So – to change your job, you need to change the films that your body is playing. To change your film about your unsatisfying job, you need to change your feelings (emotional and physical), thoughts, memories, visualizations, expectations and beliefs.
So – how do you trade your unsatisfying job in for something much better?
Here are the steps:
- Get out a sheet of paper and fold it in half vertically to create two columns.
- On the left side, let yourself loose and write down everything you hate about your job. Write down how your job makes you feel (both mentally and physically). What you think about your job or what you tell yourself about your job. Write down memories you have working at your job – perhaps things that have happened in the past that have upset you. Write down what you expect to happen if you carry on working at your job. Furthermore, write down anything and everything that comes to mind. You can also write down any fears, frustrations or anger you feel about trying to get a new job. Don’t worry about writing things that might later offend someone – we’re going to rip this paper up later – no one will ever see it.
- Once you’re done, look at your list and realize that all that stuff is keeping you stuck. Take an inventory as to how you feel. Do you feel miserable, unhappy, annoyed or frustrated? Your mind and body are holding that film which is projecting out of you to deliver your current situation. In order to change your external situation – your unsatisfactory job, you need to change who you are from the inside. You need to change the film or films your playing.
- For everything listed on the left side, write the opposite. Even if the opposite isn’t true, just write the opposite and pretend to feel what it would feel like to believe it’s true. Notice how you start to feel better as you carry on doing the list. Notice that you’re putting down what you do want rather than focusing on what you do not want. Whatever you focus on, you get. This exercise will help you to define what you want and that’s the first step with making any kind of change.
- Once you’re done, rip the columns apart and shred or burn the left side. Keep the right side as a reminder about what you want and look at it as often as you feel appropriate. You might also want to put something at the bottom like, ‘Please make this happen, or something better, for the greatest good for me. Thank you. It is done.’
Kim Brown helps people to find their life’s purpose and exponentially increase their fulfillment. To get started read Kim’s book, ‘How Life Really Works: The Answer to Finding your Purpose & Personal Fulfillment’